Home is where my heart feels most at rest. I love the opportunities I have to visit family, to go on road trips, to engage at church, to connect with friends over coffee…but my soul always heaves a happy little sigh when I get to step over our doorstep and into home.
Some of those feelings spring from the way God has me wired—the introverted wife + homemaker who loves to connect and also loves to be alone. But I think there’s also something deeper here, beyond simply feeling safe in a particular location. “Home” is much bigger than location, after all—it can move and grow and be cultivated in new settings. It’s dynamic in that way…and the idea of it that each of us hold is something deeply grounding.
So here’s what I’m learning…
After Cameron and I got married, settling into our new home together became an exciting new project. More than just arranging furniture and hanging wall art to make the rooms visually appealing, I want our home to be a sacred space: a place full of beauty, a place where the two of us experience rest and renewal, and a place where others find warm hospitality. Big goals, right? Here are three tips that help me break it down practically, plus resources along the way:
1. Bring in the beauty
If I had a million dollars, I’d probably buy a truckload of indoor plants and scatter them over every surface in the house.
But in all seriousness, making your home beautiful is so much more than a frivolous pursuit of “stuff” (and can be done without spending more than you can afford, or even spending much at all). For me, having a dozen succulents in our living room is part of bringing in the beauty—identifying something we love, and using it to brighten a space we use often. (Plus there was an awesome sale, so stocking up was financially friendly too! Yes!)
Try brainstorming two or three things that make home homier for you. Plants? Throw blankets? The right lighting? Candles? Don’t write off your decorative preferences as silly and trite; God took the time to make beautiful things, and so can we!
Resources for home decor that doesn’t break the bank…
- Thrift stores!
- Sales (check the Amazon deals page)
- If you’re an online shopper, download the Honey app! Honey searches the web for any discount codes and automatically tests them all for you at checkout, so you can save without even trying!
Find beauty. Bring it home. Enjoy it!
2. Create a place to rest
Cameron and I have been learning just how important it is to prioritize rest, particularly with the demands of working in the ministry. But whatever you and your spouse do for a living, don’t be afraid to identify your own threshold for rest & plan accordingly!
For me, that means carving out a space (or multiple spaces) in our home that help us rest. Candles on the table where I like to have my morning coffee and quiet time? Check. Throw blankets easily accessible by the couch? Check. Comfy chair in the corner of our bedroom? Check—I even shopped around for an under-$20 table to set up for a full-on reading nook.
Whatever you do, be intentional! Give yourself the space to enjoy rest when you need it.
Need some inspiration? Try these:
- I save cozy pictures on Pinterest to get my creative juices flowing!
- Read what others have to say about cultivating rest.
- On the practical side, this little table completes our bedroom reading nook.
3. Share your space
Few things are more sacred than friends & family coming together in fellowship. There’s something so refreshing and beautiful about the art of hospitality, not to mention that it can be just plain fun! No man (or household) is an island, so give yourself the freedom and the privilege of sharing your space with others.
Hospitality doesn’t have to be a formal pursuit; it can be as simple as making your home and your time available to those close to you. We’re still learning how to balance our resting home time and our available-for-hospitality home time—but both are so important! Think about your own needs, and how best to accommodate them while leaving time to reach out and invite others into the home you’ve created.
Need some ideas?
- Our personal favorite…host a game night! (Quelf, anyone?)
- Set up that guest room!
- Be creative, but most importantly, be available!
How do you cultivate your sacred space?
What makes your home a place of rest & relaxation? How have you brought in beauty & extended hospitality? Share in the comments!